Seek counselling so you can heal. Such as overspending? Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on September 07, 2018: Have your father get custody of you. I'm not saying it isn't tradgid, I'm asking how you can be surprised. She had to work, even as a young child, for the most basic things - a uniform and and stationery - so she could attend school. I knew that my mam wasnt the best but I think I really understand it now. i would really appreciate the feedback and the suggestions of what i should do Etc.. umm, here's what i did, im old though and idk if you can still get away with this. They are toxic, even evil. you dont cry now i see why he does that because that is clearly abuse i still have scars on my body physical scars ! its just too much, i cant go on living like this and i get frequent suicidal thoughts. 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These parents maintain that they should never have to praise their offspring for things such as having good behavior, doing chores without being asked, or earning good grades. i also forgot to add i really badly wanted a phone im 14 and my cousins are younger then me and also there are some older then me i planned of what phone im going to get of coarse apple i told my mom and she said that she doesn't have enough money for it and then my cousin asked the one who is a year older then me she is getting him a phone on black friday last year my mom got phones for my aunt and one of my cousins, i remmember when my mom gets mad she tells me to die and that if i was dead it would be easier for the family and that she wouldn't have to constantly yell at me my mom says that im a disgracful peice of shit to this family, funny how all 10 describe my parents your typical asian parents also such a coincidence my mother was talking to my younger cousin over the phone she's i think 12 and im 14 and she's comparing her and my sister with me always telling my flaws to others and making a bad picture of me i feel humiliated and disgraced of myself i hate myself of who i am now i think of myself lowly now my self esteem is destroyed now no matter how much i talk back to that voice of negitivity i lose every time it proves to me that this is what I am a peice of shit and nothing more my mother never shows her love to me it was always my sister and my mother and father only care about my grades that is it i struggle with math and i stepped from a D to an B and then something happened between witch caused me to drop my grade down to a D again and they gave me a 2 hour lecture about how im nothing without my grades and that if i don't step up my grades they will send me to a hostel my hobby is art is shut down i live art and no one can stop me from doing what i love so lunch at school or secret art classes is the only time i get to do the thing i love, Amazing how all 10 describe my parent i guess that's just typical asian parent(chinese descent), all my school and university of my choice got shot down, all jobs,hobby, and things that i like to do,even if i tried taking over the family business like they themself WANTED all shot down, demanding a perfect girlfriend,all my female friend got shot down no one can stand my parent,and they demand grandkids,now i don't even want to marry or have children, i tried talking to my grandma and other relative that is "higher" in position than them,they talk to my parent,then they change for the better for about 1 week..after that they become worst than the last and how dare i talk about bad thing about them to the relative and shaming them, i tried bringing them to the psychologist,they got advice bla bla,same thing happen 1 week wonderful parent,after that they become worst and worst, i tried cutting off contact and they harping to all my relative and acquaintance of how ungrateful and bad children i am,if i really want to cut off from them i have to cut off from other family member and friend that i have or they will try to find out where i am from them and destroy my life again and again and again, oh and how super religious they are how active they are in church they are literally think themself as holyman that cannot do any wrong,smiting me for how evil i am but they are not looking at the mirror themself of how they think they are servant of god and how they really act,i even tried talking about their situation with the help of the bible i quote some verse and they smite me again about how dare i use the bible against them. Ever since i was a child i had developed depression because i was always in such a negative space. And with the rules I don't mind following the rules no matter how stupid I think they are but they NEVER let me ask why. If that doesn't pan out, seek a counselor's help. The Arena Media Brands, LLC and respective content providers to this website may receive compensation for some links to products and services on this website. This past week, I've never felt so deflated, I'm practically ok with dying. I dont get complimented on my looks as much in my family or life as my sister and everyone else in my family does. Suicide My grandparents adopted me when I was younger. I already told God and I know he's already helping me. She wanted an education but they saw her merely as a means of supplementing their income. My mom is the only one nice to me. These are the books we're crushing on this winter, 6 valuable lessons we learned from the Frog and Toad books, The difference between young adult and new adultand why it matters, Your step-by-step schedule for the ultimate New Year's Eve, 5 holiday dessert recipes you need to start making every year, 5 things to consider in your college search, Affordable birthday gifts your bestie will love, How to *actually* get stuff done when you're tired. But I don't feel I'm ready yet. It is FREE! A good strategy is to encourage children to develop their own personalities and voice. Again, parents need to check their egos and loosen up a bit. But for some reason my parents are the only ones not proud of her. What do I care? My mom didn't even practice with me. Maybe a high school student can bring you up to speed over the summer, without charging too much. If I protested, they would tell me I am lazy and useless and that this was the "small" price I had to pay for being taken care of. I've tried reaching out to people for help. and if you ask me.. i dont care as much about grades, for me.. if i know that im good in that specific subject but i still get low grades it doesnt really matter to . I used to have suicide thoughts when I was little but I give up on that because of the internet that make me have a lot of online friends that supported me .I feel stupid sometimes because when I have negative thoughts there goes the positive pop out of no where .,. for the childish thing, yes i am childish but can you really blame me? Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on January 25, 2018: Follow YOUR dreams, your mother is a soul destroying person. It's a shame stupidity isn't painful. No I don't! Parents try to discipline children for their own good. Things got progressively worse as years went by and I got siblings. They care about your grades because they want a good future for you. Your father wants you to be subordinate to him in order to elevate his low self-esteem. Many parents view their children as THEIR possessions, even trophies. Your father is making you dependent as an exercise of his power. There also where a lot of little other events between mom and me that resulted in me feeling like shit all day and now that my dad moved out as they divorced the one person who cares about me is not here as often anymore. Anyone else would give up and leave, or at least up to this point everyone has but her. Grace Marguerite Williams (author) from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York on June 14, 2018: DON'T KILL yourself. Thanks. Emotional & Mental Health Emotional & Stress Management Relationship, Friendship & Family problems My parents never understand me! How To Deal With Teenagers: How Bad Is Peer Pressure, And Can Parents Influence The Peer Group? You don't need "family" like this. I just want to cry most of the time. You feel that whatever your sibling does for good or bad, you feel somehow that you are responsible for your sibling's actions when such isn't necessarily the case. I'm 13 and 6'2", makes me feel way too self conscious, Press J to jump to the feed. Instead, parents should encourage their children to pursue their dreams and let them figure out if their dreams and goals are reachable or impossible. We want to hear from you! My dad works 4 am - 8pm so he is just too tired to react or support me. (She's 92 and can't live for much longer). Direct a movie and we'll give you an iconic film to binge this weekend. Most parents, unfortunately, have this mindset. Any responsibilities they didn't want fell on me. Your father is abusive & his behavior is inexcusable. It is best for you to disassociate from him & his family. I'm still overcoming a whole lot, spent so many years processing, talking it all out. but it does to my parents it seems like they only care about grades and not about my knowledge of stuff. Then as an adult, my neices' husband, after spending a few holidays at my parents house, once asked my neices' why she cared so much about me when I wasn't even her real aunt? Meantime, I performed exceptionally at primary school, but my mother said it was only because I had dumb kids in my year. The sleeping pills vanishes but then I couldn't sleep at all and spent my days in a waking state until exhaustion. Yesterday a coworker threatened to beat me up and shoot me. I've never had money so I've never been able to take care of myself. Just because a child does not have the same characteristics as their parents does not mean they are a failure that needs correcting. Parents must realize that children are individuals & that they DON'T OWN their children. What can I do? 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